Before I Die!

I use to volunteer at an Alzheimer's facility, and I fell in love with all the elderly people there. There was this little old lady, that could only say one sentence. "Before I die! Before I die!" - If she heard you say any word, she would take those last words and say it. So if someone was saying for example: I want some chocolate chip cookies! She would say, "Before I die, Before I die, I have to have lots of chocolate chip cookies-before I die!"

If she heard someone say money- she would say "Before I die, Before I die, I have to have lot's of money before I die!" If you said, sex- she would say "Before I die, Before I die - I have to have lots of sex before I die! "

I'd say the word Love- and she would say - "Before I die, Before I die, I have to have lots of love before I die."

I think Living and Dying with Lots of Love around you, is the perfect thing to aim for- She died, a few months later.

"Lots of Love and God's Presence-Before I die! "

True Story!



Copyright 2010 Candace Chamber-Belida

LOVESICK

I think we can learn a thing or two from King Solomon about love and romance. In his day he truly knew the divine rapture of love, enough to write a whole chaper on it. His writings displayed not only the incredible passion that two people can have for one another, but he also uses it as an allegory of God's love.

The Marriage, was meant to be exhuberant and exciting. Even to the point that when two people looked at each other they would become intoxicated by their love. Enough to even become blissfully lovesick.

Songs of Solomon 2:4 - He brings me to the banquet hall and everyone can see how much he loves me. Oh feed me with your love- your raisins and your apples- for I am utterly lovesick. Amazing that she is so weak with love that she has for him, that she is not only fainthearted, but she looks to the man that she loves, to restore her from the weakness in her. " She goes on to say, His left hand is under my head and with his right hand he embraces me. Because she so adoringly loves the way she feels she goes on to say, " Kiss me again and again for your love is sweeter than wine." This is her bridal experience.

The joy of her husband excites her so that she is so faint with love, that she has become lovesick. Have you ever been lovesick? You are so disoriented, so weak, that you can't even think straight. He is her beloved, and he has taken her to the banquet hall, and his banner over her is love, and she is so overwhelmed by his presence and the experience, thus becoming lovesick.

Solomon goes on to say that it's not only her beauty that mesermizes him, but he is drunk off of her love. In his allegory he goes on to say seal me in your heart with permanent betrothal, for love is strong as death, and jealousy is as cruel as Sheol. It flashes fire, the very flame of Jehovah. Many waters cannot quench the flame of love, neither can the floods drown it.- Wow-- a burning flame of Love.

So when you get hit with a flaming arrow of love, now you know where it came from. It originates from the very throne of God. In a marriage the marriage bed is holy, undefiled. If you stop a second and think about it, God has made intimacy between a man and women a little of heaven on earth. A heavenly bliss which is to be experienced, joining the two and making them one. One Flesh meshing together as God has intended.

Many couples don't love each other righteously, let alone lovingly. They use their bodies as a weapon, instead of using it as a loving expression of their tenderness and commitment. If they would embraced these words of Soloman, and allow their love for each other to be awakened instead of falling into a deep sleep, they would find that their relationship is absolutely delicious.

Stop and Think, is there anything more splendiforus than being intoxicated on Love? Nope my friend, my conclusion, being Lovesick- is not bad at all.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida Photo Unknown

Erase It All

Sometimes in life we have to do the most difficult thing that the heart can do. Erase our past, erase our history. How do you erase your footprints that are so indublity planted in the heart? Some things in life are irreversable. Once said, they can't be retracted, once done, never to be undone. If only we could see the future, and know how to guide ourselves we would be always on perfect ground.

In marriage, sometimes our actions come forth in such an incredible way, that we have to step back and wonder who said or did that. The bad can't be erased, yet sometimes the good is erased forever. It is important that we imprint on the hearts of the one we love, the true essence of our feelings and desire. Making a mark on one's life must be one that is cherished and that leaves the other with rapturous thoughts of joy.

It is important to erase the pain, the hurts and sadness but stamp for life the estacy of true love.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida

The Beauty of Trust

One of the most valuable things in life that cannot be traded or compromised is Trust. I remember as a little girl, my father said to me " If you love someone, don't ever lie to them-because when you want them to believe you they never will." His words have always echoed in the back of my mind.
Relationships and marriages and even friendships are based on this one thing called Trust. The beauty of trust is reckless abandon. When you trust someone, you can let your feelings and emotions free, because you have fallen into the security of the relationship.
The awesome power of marriage, is that the two partners trust each other explicitly. Whether near or far, there is a real assurance that all is well. The compelling factor that motivates and instills trust is the four letter word, LOVE.
Love not only climbs mountains, swims the deepest sea, but it surrounds the other person with a cloak of tenderness and honesty. Love in its purest form is shear innocence. Like the heart of a child, trusting and with full confidence. Love can circle around the universe and come back and find its home in the heart and soul of man.
Trust, Love, and Desire the three jeweled foundation stones, that can make any relationship here on earth, eternal bliss.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida

When Hearts Collide

With the beauty of the universe, what do you do when two hearts collide? When two unlikely people, not looking for love, spontaniously collide. Isn't that the wonder of it all? Whether you are walking down the street, or stopped by the local coffee shop, then suddenly "WAM- BAM"- something hits you like a bolt of lightening.
You are so mystified by the experience that you can't even jarble into common sense what has happened.
At that moment you have sudden amnesia. You can't even plead temporary insanity. You hardly even know your name, and everything seems confusing. But one thing for sure you know you are no longer the same.
You are bewildered to understand and can't reason, how in an instant has your emotions changed to this strange euphoric feeling for this person. You now have an amazing desire of love and concern for this person. The strangeness of it all, you find that you can't help yourself. You wake up with this person on your mind, and through out the day not a moment passes as they embrace the deep corners of your mind. They say that love is a powerful force, it is an intense flame, and nothing can quench its fire.
One thing for sure, humanity can confirm... it is definately a force to be reckoned with.


Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida- Photo unknown.

The Ultimate Connection

The most intense and ultimate connection two people can have is when their souls connect. When two people who have never touched, never kissed, but seem to have the most intimate meshing of the soul. Heart to Heart-Soul to Soul.

I believe that there is a spiritual connection that goes beyond the flesh. Some people never get to have that experience because they are too focused on having the (physical only) connection and that's all that they get. However a spiritual connection, is boundless. It reaches to the intense soul of man. When someone says that a person is my soul mate, it is not just a reference to destiny, but a reference that some how the two people connected in such a way, that it is not only beyond understanding, but there is no reference point for it. It surpasses anything you can possibly imagine.

People that live across the world in other places have been known to make a connection, so real, so powerful and intense, that it almost felt like magic, defying logic. There is an intense sense of comfort and ease, as if you've known the person your entire life.

I believe that in love, the meshing of two souls comes a profound reality. Just as the universe is massive and huge, the plan of God in connecting partners for life is as well. When we don't rush love, and seek for those things that are only immediate, we may embrace something that is masterfully done by God's ordinance.
For whatever the reason or cause, people don't just happened into our life. It is important to find out their true purpose and reason for touching our lives, whether they are there for a moment or there to stay.

Something to ponder, how can a finite man, understand the mysteries and mind of an infinite God.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida Photo Unknown

There is Nothing Better than God!

If your waiting for something better to come along, there is nothing better than God. You can either have God's perfect will or his permissible will, the choice is yours. God desires for you to have his best. The perfect will of God in your relationship.

It is best to have a relationship that is governed by God and perfectly planned, by God. In God's infinite wisdom he crafts a relationship that is designed to be perfectly fitted. Having a marriage relationship that is ordained by God is a Gift.

If you wait and seek the Lord you can have his perfect will. If you are in a hurry and try to rush love you will have his permissible will. Everything worth waiting for takes time to develop into something awesome. The question is, do you want the perfect will of God, or the permissible will of God?

Copyright 2009 Candace Chambers-Belida

Nothing but the Real Thing!

Counterfeit Love the False Love

There is nothing more devastating then to find out that what you thought was the real thing is not the real thing. Things don't always appear to be what they look like. Many people have ventured out to the other side of the fence thinking that the grass was greener on the other side. Only to find that what they believed to be excitement, and rapturous love, turned out to be pain, heartache and sorrow. Why?

Because it wasn't real, forsaking their significant other, children, jobs and much more on a fantasy. Something that appeared so real, that you would give up everything for it. And in the end to find out that its like fools gold pretty on the outside -nothing on the inside. I liken it to cotton candy, sweet to the taste, but has no substance. Funny thing about fantasies is that a fantasy cannot live up to reality. The fantasy is always more colorful, and something that can't be truly obtained. So many people run after their fantasy and then when they get there they find out that it falls short of their expectations.

Reality cannot live up to Fantasy, it dwells in the realm of imagination and delusionment. It is a place in the mind where dreams hide. Governed by wishful thinking. Now I know you all know what I'm talking about. We have all been there, coveting something that is hidden in the heart and mind. Falling for that moment of sheer pleasure only to find in the end that it is empty lust and once there, it is real hard to get out- without being burned.

The seducing spirit has captured the soul and has chosen to have its own way, and when it's done, you're left broken, despired and alone. You've traded everything for it. That wink of the eye, that soothing tender voice, that all together lovely fragrance, the thrill of the moment, took away your essence of reality and sensibility.

Its best to not stray to the other side, but stay where you are, there's nothing like the real thing!


Copyright 2009 Candace Chambers-Belida