Friday, May 1, 2009

Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places!

I'm amazed at how many people are looking for love, and they seem to wander to and fro looking for that significant other, whether its the Internet (online-dating) or at a bar or even the friendly hook-up from friends. People seem to be searching everywhere for love as if love seemed lost. First of all, I don't think that love is lost. I for sure don't think that you need to be a bounty hunter either looking for love.

I feel that most people miss true love when it comes along because they seem to have their eyes ever searching elsewhere. Love sometimes comes along so silently like a whisper, no bells, no whistles, just a quiet easiness that just seems to just creep in. Sometimes its just like a warm spring rain gently falling. Just easy, no complications, no hitches, no problems, no drama.

To expound on this a little further, when love comes along its so real that we mistaken its true identity, because we have heard the romantic stories of how love should be, the knight coming on the white horse rescuing the damsel in distress. We all have heard the story and so we run wildly and quickly to embrace this moment of euphoria, to only later find out that what we were running after was a phantom ghost.

I feel that most people want the quick fix, like the quick dinners and the quick thrills. Anything worth having is worth waiting for and worth working for. In desperation and the hope of not being forever loveless, we rush without hesitation and reservation into relationships that are neither satisfying or ordained. Oh yes, I must add God to the equation, because he is the only true substance that can keeps the bonds of matrimony truly together in a world like this, when commitment seems to be a byword.

How about (you) seeking in a place, that makes you feel the most comfortable, that place that seems to be ideally your sanctuary, that place you find joy and peace? More and likely, there is a significant person that seems to also dwelling with you in that place, a friend- yeah I know she or he is just a friend or just a buddy, but we have a great friendship and we do everything together.

More and likely that friend that is right up under your nose that seems to share your hearts passion and desires is probably the one that has a real heart for you, and a real heart of love.

Besides what could be better than marrying your best friend that turns into being your best lover too! Oh my....
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