Monday, August 30, 2010

The Keys and Simplicity of Love!

Love was never meant to be complicated. Love is suppose to be when two hearts give themselves to each other without reservation and hesitation. It's when the love between two people ignites passion, climbs mountains, swims the longest sea, and stands for each other without ever wavering no matter what.

Today most people are either with the one they love or the one that loves them. Missing seems to be an even exchange of love. Why is that? Why are we with a person that may fit us in every area of our life, but not fit with us - in the heart? Why do we settle ourselves in situations and relationships where we don't feel complete? You know the scene in Jerry McGuire, "You complete me."

How can we settle into a relationship, that offers security, comforts, and maybe even sexual gratification but yet there is no real love or trust? Is it simply because its easier? Ponder this: Haven't we fallen short here in the area of marriage and relationships to compromise such a valuable thing? Love and Marriage is the finest thing in life that we will ever truly receive. So why should we accept part of the commitment of love, without true love being present?

Isn't being in love such an important issue in life that we should consider its steps wisely? When you love someone, you are willing to have reckless abandon. You are willing to free-fall into the arms of the other, knowing without a doubt that the person on the other end will catch you.
I have come to find out that love means a lot of different things to people. For some, love is a house, or a new car. For some it's a warm body next to them every night. For some its being together in a free relationship without any true vows of love or commitment, there are no restrictions nor boundaries.

But for those that have found the key to unlock this mystery, have found that love is the most formidable force to be reckoned with on the face of the earth.

It is a burning fire of sensation that hits to the core of the soul of man. It is unstoppable and unquenchable. It consumes every fiber of ones mind, soul and heart. It is filled with the sweetest sensation that can fall upon the human soul satisfying its intermost cravings.

Finding the right mate, at the right time, is the greatest thing that you can accomplish on this earth, not only does it satisfy the rapaciousness and thirst of the longings of the heart, but to partner with someone that fits perfectly with you in every area is to overflow the heart with true joy and amorous love.

When you are in true love, you get lost within one another. There is no place you'd rather be.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida

Friday, August 13, 2010

Before I Die!

I use to volunteer at an Alzheimer's facility, and I fell in love with all the elderly people there. There was this little old lady, that could only say one sentence. "Before I die! Before I die!" - If she heard you say any word, she would take those last words and say it. So if someone was saying for example: I want some chocolate chip cookies! She would say, "Before I die, Before I die, I have to have lots of chocolate chip cookies-before I die!"

If she heard someone say money- she would say "Before I die, Before I die, I have to have lot's of money before I die!" If you said, sex- she would say "Before I die, Before I die - I have to have lots of sex before I die! "

I'd say the word Love- and she would say - "Before I die, Before I die, I have to have lots of love before I die."

I think Living and Dying with Lots of Love around you, is the perfect thing to aim for- She died, a few months later.

"Lots of Love and God's Presence-Before I die! "

True Story!

Copyright 2010 Candace Chamber-Belida

Thursday, August 12, 2010


I think we can learn a thing or two from King Solomon about love and romance. In his day he truly knew the divine rapture of love, enough to write a whole chaper on it. His writings displayed not only the incredible passion that two people can have for one another, but he also uses it as an allegory of God's love.

The Marriage, was meant to be exhuberant and exciting. Even to the point that when two people looked at each other they would become intoxicated by their love. Enough to even become blissfully lovesick.

Songs of Solomon 2:4 - He brings me to the banquet hall and everyone can see how much he loves me. Oh feed me with your love- your raisins and your apples- for I am utterly lovesick. Amazing that she is so weak with love that she has for him, that she is not only fainthearted, but she looks to the man that she loves, to restore her from the weakness in her. " She goes on to say, His left hand is under my head and with his right hand he embraces me. Because she so adoringly loves the way she feels she goes on to say, " Kiss me again and again for your love is sweeter than wine." This is her bridal experience.

The joy of her husband excites her so that she is so faint with love, that she has become lovesick. Have you ever been lovesick? You are so disoriented, so weak, that you can't even think straight. He is her beloved, and he has taken her to the banquet hall, and his banner over her is love, and she is so overwhelmed by his presence and the experience, thus becoming lovesick.

Solomon goes on to say that it's not only her beauty that mesermizes him, but he is drunk off of her love. In his allegory he goes on to say seal me in your heart with permanent betrothal, for love is strong as death, and jealousy is as cruel as Sheol. It flashes fire, the very flame of Jehovah. Many waters cannot quench the flame of love, neither can the floods drown it.- Wow-- a burning flame of Love.

So when you get hit with a flaming arrow of love, now you know where it came from. It originates from the very throne of God. In a marriage the marriage bed is holy, undefiled. If you stop a second and think about it, God has made intimacy between a man and women a little of heaven on earth. A heavenly bliss which is to be experienced, joining the two and making them one. One Flesh meshing together as God has intended.

Many couples don't love each other righteously, let alone lovingly. They use their bodies as a weapon, instead of using it as a loving expression of their tenderness and commitment. If they would embraced these words of Soloman, and allow their love for each other to be awakened instead of falling into a deep sleep, they would find that their relationship is absolutely delicious.
Stop and Think, is there anything more splendiforus than being intoxicated on Love? Nope my friend, my conclusion, being Lovesick- is not bad at all.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida Photo Unknown

Erase It All

Sometimes in life we have to do the most difficult thing that the heart can do. Erase our past, erase our history. How do you erase your footprints that are so indublity planted in the heart? Some things in life are irreversable. Once said, they can't be retracted, once done, never to be undone. If only we could see the future, and know how to guide ourselves we would be always on perfect ground.

In marriage, sometimes our actions come forth in such an incredible way, that we have to step back and wonder who said or did that. The bad can't be erased, yet sometimes the good is erased forever. It is important that we imprint on the hearts of the one we love, the true essence of our feelings and desire. Making a mark on one's life must be one that is cherished and that leaves the other with rapturous thoughts of joy.

It is important to erase the pain, the hurts and sadness but stamp for life the estacy of true love.
Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

The Beauty of Trust

One of the most valuable things in life that cannot be traded or compromised is Trust. I remember as a little girl, my father said to me " If you love someone, don't ever lie to them-because when you want them to believe you they never will." His words have always echoed in the back of my mind.
Relationships and marriages and even friendships are based on this one thing called Trust. The beauty of trust is reckless abandon. When you trust someone, you can let your feelings and emotions free, because you have fallen into the security of the relationship.
The awesome power of marriage, is that the two partners trust each other explicitly. Whether near or far, there is a real assurance that all is well. The compelling factor that motivates and instills trust is the four letter word, LOVE.
Love not only climbs mountains, swims the deepest sea, but it surrounds the other person with a cloak of tenderness and honesty. Love in its purest form is shear innocence. Like the heart of a child, trusting and with full confidence. Love can circle around the universe and come back and find its home in the heart and soul of man.
Trust, Love, and Desire the three jeweled foundation stones, that can make any relationship here on earth, eternal bliss.
Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

When Hearts Collide

With the beauty of the universe, what do you do when two hearts collide? When two unlikely people, not looking for love, spontaniously collide. Isn't that the wonder of it all? Whether you are walking down the street, or stopped by the local coffee shop, then suddenly "WAM- BAM"- something hits you like a bolt of lightening.
You are so mystified by the experience that you can't even jarble into common sense what has happened.
At that moment you have sudden amnesia. You can't even plead temporary insanity. You hardly even know your name, and everything seems confusing. But one thing for sure you know you are no longer the same.
You are bewildered to understand and can't reason, how in an instant has your emotions changed to this strange euphoric feeling for this person. You now have an amazing desire of love and concern for this person. The strangeness of it all, you find that you can't help yourself. You wake up with this person on your mind, and through out the day not a moment passes as they embrace the deep corners of your mind. They say that love is a powerful force, it is an intense flame, and nothing can quench its fire.
One thing for sure, humanity can confirm... it is definately a force to be reckoned with.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida- Photo unknown.

The Ultimate Connection

The most intense and ultimate connection two people can have is when their souls connect. When two people who have never touched, never kissed, but seem to have the most intimate meshing of the soul. Heart to Heart-Soul to Soul.

I believe that there is a spiritual connection that goes beyond the flesh. Some people never get to have that experience because they are too focused on having the (physical only) connection and that's all that they get. However a spiritual connection, is boundless. It reaches to the intense soul of man. When someone says that a person is my soul mate, it is not just a reference to destiny, but a reference that some how the two people connected in such a way, that it is not only beyond understanding, but there is no reference point for it. It surpasses anything you can possibly imagine.

People that live across the world in other places have been known to make a connection, so real, so powerful and intense, that it almost felt like magic, defying logic. There is an intense sense of comfort and ease, as if you've known the person your entire life.

I believe that in love, the meshing of two souls comes a profound reality. Just as the universe is massive and huge, the plan of God in connecting partners for life is as well. When we don't rush love, and seek for those things that are only immediate, we may embrace something that is masterfully done by God's ordinance.
For whatever the reason or cause, people don't just happened into our life. It is important to find out their true purpose and reason for touching our lives, whether they are there for a moment or there to stay.

Something to ponder, how can a finite man, understand the mysteries and mind of an infinite God.

Copyright 2010 Candace Chambers-Belida Photo Unknown